Anything Goes

[sabina82]

Hey guys!

Thanks for the birthday wishes! I'm gonna be quick as I have dinner plans...

No, I didn't see the PETA ad, Cindy. I'll have to look it up. Though I have a visceral reaction to all things PETA-related - which is a violent dislike. =) I really really really can't stand PETA. Really. It's not surprising is it? I do work in agriculture, went to an Aggie school, I have done research with animals, taken care of animals in other research trials, and I eat meat and I have pets.

I hope everyone had a great Groundhog Day!!

[jendill]

6 more weeks of winter... gee coulda looked at a calendar and came up with that answer...
So I started my new job today... not really new.. just an altered version of my job.. and so far so good.. they even threw something else at me to edit and a co-worker came up to me and complimented me on it. Made my day.. cuz it came from a photog that's really good.
So it looks like Maddie might have the same virus that Jay had last week... we just so happen to go to the doctor tomorrow for her 9 month check... I guess we'll see then.

[Cindy]

I can't believe she is 9 months already. Time flies. Soon, she'll be running all over.

No kidding, this weather blows. I've got library stuff coming in, just as more snow is going to hit. Cripes.

That's cool about new responsibilities. Glad you like it. It beats getting the same pay for extra stuff you hate. There's more spoiler pics to bring over. I'm going to go do it now.

I find it funny that our pic thread is such a big hit ***waves to lurkers enjoying the Mahone/Went fest***

Sabina: Hope you had a nice dinner and that your friends gave you a nice day. What number is this anyway? (I know it's fewer than me )

[sabina82]

Hey guys and good morning!

I had a FANTASTIC dinner/drinks with my friends. It was fun too b/c I was mixing groups of friends -and they all really liked each other and made other plans to hang out. Love when that happens.

Poor Maddie - hope she feels better soon!

Cindy - it's 27....gah....but I'm cool with it. I'm in a really good headspace.

When I have more time, I'll have to tell you all about this guy at work - I'm not sure what to think...or even if I like him, and he's being kind of weird. =)

[Cindy]

When I have more time, I'll have to tell you all about this guy at work - I'm not sure what to think...or even if I like him, and he's being kind of weird. =)

Ok, I'm intrigued. LOL

27's a great number and you have a job you really like and friends you enjoy (who like each other) It's PRIME ;D

That's around the time I honestly would have left the area I'm in and gone exploring.

[jendill]

Maddie's 20 lbs 4.5 oz... 29 1/4 inches tall... she's tall for her age apparently. And the only thing she's not doing for her age is clapping... which irritates me cuz I've been trying to get her to do it and it's just not happening... and we clap for everything. So far her tummy seems ok today... cross your fingers!
Sabina... tell us about the guy!

[sabina82]

Hey guys.

Okay, I'm going to attempt to explain about this guy. We'll call him T.

I met him back in October at work and immediately liked him. He's kind of cute, fairly funny and most importantly he spoke like a normal person. (Unlike the last guy I met - who spoke to me with this extremely annoying wide-eyed wonder like everything I said and did was the mostwonderfulthingeverandaren'tyouthebestpersoninthewholewideworldohmygodyou'reperfect kind of way that got old fast. But since he's a guy at work (T), I didn't really pursue anything because I wasn't sure if I'd be working with him or not in the future (since my whole job situation was potentially going to change at the end of the year). We didn't talk much in Nov. or Dec. since I was CRAZY busy.

Anyway, we started chatting again in January. I'm not sure if he likes me or not, sometimes he looks at me as if he does, and sometimes he talks to me as if he does. But it's almost like he has a split personality, which I didn't really notice until I introduced him to two of my other work friends (C, a new girl, and K, who's been there for awhile). He's only known C and K for about two weeks and he texts and emails C an INCREDIBLE amount. And it's not in a flirty way. It's more in a needy, let's be BFFs FOREVER kind of way. She has a boyfriend, and he calls T her "at work boyfriend" (ha) because of all the texting. I told C that if T is her "at work boyfriend" then he is cheating on her with K and I (b/c he emails us both just as much). I think he is really bored at work - it doesn't help that he is by himself in a dungeon of an office.

He's pretty young - he just turned 23 in November. Some of the things he's said I can brush off as boneheaded comments from a guy less than 25 years old. But he's also fairly responsible - he bought a house in the fall and just got himself a labrador puppy.

Let me make it clear that I LOVE to tease and joke around with people. And K is the queen of teasing (not meanly) other people. It's just how she relates to people. Well, T told her in an email "can we stop joking and being mean to each other. Not my cup of tea all the time." She was really hurt by this comment b/c nothing in the emails sounded mean to her. That really put her off and we decided he's a bit sensitive!!

Then, he invited my friends and I to his house to pre-drink on Saturday before heading to the bar (though he and his friends hadn't decided which bar they were going to). But I called and said we were running late and wanted to get a booth, so wouldn't be making it.

Then on Monday morning he wanted to know how our night was. So I said it was lots of fun (it was soooo much fun) and that while only three of us ended up going to the bar, we made friends there. Which is somewhat true - we did meet people at the bar, not that we'll ever see them again, but just people to dance with. He wanted to know if "those friends" were boys and whether we all hooked up! Now, let me be clear - I do not hook up at bars. I am one of the MOST prudish people you're likely to ever meet. Maybe I shouldn't have, but my response to him was "ask me no questions, and I'll tell you no lies." Which definitely is vague and leaves open the door for various possibilities. But my reasoning is this:

a) I barely know him
b) I don't discuss private details of my personal life with guys at work that I barely know
c) so I'm not likely to confirm or deny ANYTHING that may or may not have happened, cause it's pretty much none of his business

He was kind of put off by that response. He said that by me 'ignoring' his question, he 'obviously' knows the answer and wants to know if I hooked up with someone.

I wrote back: "Sorry, denied. What did I say? Ask me no questions?"

To which he wrote "well, I obviously know the answer then. I don't see why you can't talk about it."

!!!!!!!

Hmmm...let me see:

a) there was nothing to talk about, you just assumed
b) even if there were something to talk about, do you HONESTLY think I would give you, a guy that I barely know, all the juicy details??
c) sometimes you act like you like me, so why then do you want to know all the juicy details of my non-existent Saturday night sex-capades?
d) ASKING PERSONAL INFORMATION MUCH??
e) I don't owe you ANY details about ANYTHING that may or may not happen - we're barely friends, and I'm sorry, but I'm a prude and yeah...that's not really an area I discuss openly with many people

So yeah...very weird.

Then today he wanted to know about my dinner with my girlfriends last night and if I was "hung over" (um, no...I don't party hard on Monday nights, though I was a bit tipsy - but Monday-night appropriately tipsy). My friend K decided to be cute and write in an email:

So, Sabina, didn't you tell T about Monday night? I guess you didn't tell him about....

I wrote back (totally jokingly):

What? About What? Huh? Stop spreading rumours, K!!

He got PISSED and wrote that he was confused and lost by the emails and that if this was our attempt to be-little or humiliate him, then good job! Holy sensitivity, Batman! For a guy who thinks he is funny, he sure can't take a joke. So I wrote back:

Calm down. K was just joking around. Breathe. (and then later):

Dude, cool it. Seriously, no one would try to humiliate you, why would you think that? Stop being a paranoid android *grin* (trying to calm him down with some humour).

Apparently he thought that the "..." had something to do with him and apparently he's intensely paranoid!! Yeesh. Buddy, there's no one out to get you. Take a chill pill.

Luckily, he did latch onto the whole "android/robot" comment and started making light jokes about himself being a robot etc. etc. which were stupid and appropriately light-hearted.

So...I'm sure that was totally confusing, but it's like you're never sure if you're going to get funny, fun, endearing T, or intense, paranoid and non-joke-appreciating T. It's a bit worrying.

I don't get it b/c I'm fairly relaxed and love to joke around with people - so I don't get it when it's rebuffed in such an intensely paranoid manner. I'd blame it on the fact that you can't always tell "tone" by email, but he's talked to us all in person enough times to realize we're not out to hurt and humiliate him!!

I really do think he's lonely. I think he hates being alone at night in his house, even though he lives with his brother and sister. So he asks us all to go out for wings/beer/bowling/etc. ALL THE BLOODY TIME. I can't do that all the time! It's bad for my bank account and for my waistline! So no, thanks. Once in a while is fine. But he needs to change his circumstance - volunteer or join something so he can be busy at night without sucking the life out of others. I'm sorry, but I enjoy my alone time and I don't NEED constant contact with others to be happy. He needs to join a sports club or something...

God, boys are SO freaking MOODY!!!!

[Cindy]

Oh boy. He certainly does sound 23. Man, until you wrote all that, I'd forgotten how young a 23 yr old guy REALLY is. He bought a house but his bro/sis live there?

I had a guy friend that was sensitive like that and it drove me crazy. We went on one "date" to his friends house (not nice) and he wanted to "go steady" (his words not mine I had a 50's flashback) after one date..what??! And he actually cried when I said no. It was so weird. I felt horrible but at the same time I wanted to tell him to buck up and be a man. Seriously, a lot more attractive. Anyway, we kept in casual touch as friends but he got married a couple yrs ago, and once that happens, no way do you stay in touch.

It sounds like your friend wants to date all of you at once and just "hang out." And I'm with you, I need my alone time. Just tell him you are saving for Europe so you can only go out on FREE walks. LOL

Jen: Maybe Maddie is happy but she doesn't know it yet so she can't clap her hands. <I'm totally joking>

My fav song as a kid "If you're happy and you know it..." Clapping is overrated ...I just used to yell!

[sabina82]

Hey Cindy. Yeah, he bought the house (his name is on the mortgage) but his brother and sister (who are both older than him) rent from him. I want to buy a house in a year or so, and he knows this - and he keeps bugging me to "stop talking about it" and just "do it." So when I saw his house (last Tuesday C, K, T and I went out for wings and beer and met his puppy) and realized it's practically brand new, I knew something else was up. Turns out his mom helped him with the down-payment. This is totally great for her to be able to do this, but my parents are NOT helping me, so yeah, it's going to take some time!!!

K, so you know how girls always say they want a "sensitive" guy? I still think that is true, but man, sensitivity has its upper limit!! Act like a man sometimes, y'know?

[jendill]

There's good sensitive and bad sensitive... T definitely sounds like the bad kind!
So my best friend found out she's pregnant (did I tell you guys this? I can't remember).. shortly after she got engaged... she just found out today she's due Aug 21.

[eagleoftruth]

Wow, that does put into perspective how YOUNG 23 is. He sounds really needy and, dare I say, lonely to boot. It sounds like he's coming around and humor seems to be working. I chalk it up to youth and social anxiety. If he's new, then that could have a lot to do with it. He's still feeling his way around.

I'm not sure you're the MOST prudish out there sabina;) If you are, then I run an extremely close second. I'm not a "church lady" and don't preach to people, but live my life in a manner I can (hopefully) be proud of. There are no skeletons. *shrug* My BFF and I have constant conversations about this exact topic

[eagleoftruth]

Jen, I'm sorry that I forgot to add a congrats for your friend. It seems like there is something in the water lately, at least where I am. There are about 5 people pregnant or who have had babies just this school year. I'm feeling left out;) J/K

[nelra]

Happy late Birthday Sabina!

T sounds like a guy friend of mine, my friend even cried on time over something silly I said.

I think I am 3rd in line for being the most prudish.

Congrats Jen on your best friend's baby.

So I am now addicted to facebook. I vowed to never be on there and now I can stop. It is cool since I have connected with friends and cousins I havent talked to in a few years.

btw-I am so done with winter. Rumor has it later this week, it will be inthe 50's here. I cant wait.

[Cindy]

LOL ok, I just figured out why we all get along, we are all pretty prudish lol. Jen can't stand germs, Neira and I can't stand guys that whine, and Eagle, I was just saying to my Mom that my problems with my family seem to stem from the fact that they have very little HONOR. As in help your family, be kind to your friends and do the right thing, even when it's hard.

I remember when Trace Atkins was on apprentice last yr. I said to my Mom "Trump will never hire him because he (Trace) has too much honor." Everyone liked and respected him, and when he said something he meant it. He was way too CLEAN for Trump. Sure enough, the other guy (that few liked by the end) took it.

Neira: Send the warm, send the warm! Can't say as I'm big on Facebook (putting all my info out there) I only joined myspace because a friend wanted to show me some pics and I put NO info in about myself and still, when I went back recently 600 people had viewed my page! That creeps me right out.

I can understand joining to reconnect with family though and it certainly seems like lots of people enjoy it. One of my Mom's friends sent her a pic of her (my Mom) that she found on Facebook. No clue how it got there, but Mom wanted to see it and couldn't without joining.

Sabina: No wonder he could afford the house, and no wonder he's not a grown up yet. My Mom would laugh in my face if I asked for anything like that. The grand total of my college fund was $1000. It would never even occur to me to ask for anything like a house.

Happy baby news Jen!

[jendill]

Thanks for all the good wishes guys.